How we handle 2 kids in our lives

Tuesday, March 27, 2007 3:51 am at 3:51 am 16 comments

It is actually quite tough looking after 2 babies without any external help. Perhaps things MAY be slightly better if Braedyn and Shayanne were spaced further apart but I don’t think it would be THAT MUCH easier anyway.

A peek into our daily routine and the extraordinary things we do to cope

Good morning (or bad depending on how you see it)
The children wake up at around 10-ish. We both wake up about 1/2 an hour to an hour earlier depending on how much sleep we had the night before and whether daddykhong woke up in the wee hours of the morning to get his office work done (yes, he usually works late once or twice a week). Whoever wakes up first has to; cook for Braedyn (mum’s job exclusively, don’t want daddykhong to give the boy food poisoning), hang the clothes to dry (we wash every alternate day), feed the dog (who hasn’t been given a bath for months!), change the water in the dog’s water bowl, light joss sticks for the altar, prepare the car for the drive to the neighbourhood shops for brunch (daddy’s job exclusively), boil water, etc…..


There aren’t that many restaurants in our 5-year old neighbourhood and fortunately we aren’t fussy eaters. We frequent this nearby Chinese coffee shop that has decent noodle stalls, chicken rice, a chee cheong fun stall, and economy rice. Before Shayanne arrived, we took turns to eat the different types of food but ever since she was born we have been eating economy rice all the time (we both don’t fancy chicken rice). Why rice? Because it is the only thing you can eat with one hand (with the other either patting Shayanne to calm her down or to grab on to Braedyn when he tries to jump off his highchair!). Also, there have been occasions when we had to stop eating for a while to tend to the kids and you know what happens to noodles when they are not eaten immediately…..

We are so regular at the coffee shop that all the stall owners and staff know what we want the minute we walk in. A highchair will be whisked to the table, we could probably tell the Myanmarese staff “the usual” and they’d know. We feed Braedyn his food before ordering ours because he won’t eat his food once he sees other food on the table.

While daddykhong is out of the house

No sleep for mummy as she has to run after a speed-crawler (who is on the verge of walking) while pacifying a 2-month old who prefers to be carried around. Mummy usually confines herself to the upper floor of the house with the safety gate locked at the top of the stairs. On good days when both kids are sleeping, she would make her way downstairs to access the Net or to bring in the clothes (if any).

Braedyn would watch his usual 1/2 an hour of Barney or Baby Einstein and accompany mummy to watch an hour of Chinese serial (fortunately we don’t have Phoenix or Dynasty else mummy will be watching Astro non-stop).

Shayanne gets her bath during the day when kor-kor is asleep. IF he wakes up during her bath, mummy will make him sit at the door to the bathroom and watch. Sometimes he obeys, sometimes he crawls in and sits right next to the shower cubicle and watches.

Tea time at around 4pm for Braedyn and mummy.

Dinner time

On good days, daddykhong will get home at 730pm to 8pm but most of the time he is back at 9pm with the usual excuse of bad jam, lots of work, meeting took too long so had no time for paperwork, etc. Things should not improve as his company is expanding (thanks daddykhong….more work = more pay = more allowance!)

We usually have dinner at a nice place – “nice” being defined as someplace which accepts credit card, and is air-conditioned (the later daddykhong comes home, the nicer the restaurant is – it is his way of compensating me for a tiring day with the kids). Heck, no complains there. I do need a break. We try to eat a some place new each time although we do default to our usual favourites.

We get home after dinner. Sometimes we visit the nearby hypermarket to buy groceries (can’t wait till they open 24 hours). Braedyn gets his shower then (don’t tell our parents this – they will go mental and lecture us on the “dangers’ of taking late baths)


We usually hit the sack at midnight after Braedyn has his night milk (during which time, daddykhong will take a very quick shower). After which he will read a bedtime story to both kids at the same time while mum is in the shower.

It’s all 4 of us on the bed. Whoever wakes up in the middle of the night will transfer Braedyn to his bed.

Couple time

Forget it. Sleep comes first!


Entry filed under: babykhong, Daddy's Corner, General.

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16 Comments Add your own

  • 1. mumsgather  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 9:06 am at 9:06 am

    Hahaha. Its going to get easier, I promise…….oh unless you have a third one. Lol! I remember writing a similar post previously but things are much easier for me now that they are 3 and 5. Hehe.

    Yes, things are getting easier. 3rd one? Forget it. This one we both agree.

  • 2. Jessie  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 9:19 am at 9:19 am

    I’m a SAHM myself but only with one toddler. Hang on there. Maybe treat yourself a massage one of these day or get daddykhong give you one when the kids is sleeping.He..he..

  • 3. nadia  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 10:05 am at 10:05 am

    I soooo know what you mean. But I can’t envision myself having to care for a toddler AND a baby at the same time! I’ll probably go mad!!! Hahahaha..

    I respect you, for being able to stay home and care for the kids. =)

    I hope I can look back and say that I’ve done a good job.

  • 4. sue  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 10:16 am at 10:16 am

    Wow… I know what you mean, hardly get time for yourself when the kids are awake, unless help is around. By the way, is Braedyn better now after the scare he had during CNY?

    Not really. During Ching Ming last Sunday, he was still freaked out by the fireworks. He still wakes up in the middle of the night to cry 😦

  • 5. KGC  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 10:25 am at 10:25 am

    MommyKhong, you are doing a wonderful job. You should be proud of yourself. In my case, handling 1 baby is difficult enough. I am so sleep deprived. I know I should not complain.

    Ever thought of hiring a maid to help? 🙂

    Don’t think a maid is an option for us. We do not want to be too dependent on maids.

  • 6. zara's mama  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm

    Couple time? We only ‘coupled’ to pro-create.. now that we have 2.. no need couple time any more.. Couple time is talking in the car over a singing toddler..

    Btw, you eat out so much, wouldn’t it be more economical and healthier if you just hire a maid and do some cooking at home?

    Wah…so direct! Coupled to procreate? 🙂

  • 7. zara's mama  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 5:11 pm at 5:11 pm

    oh.. just saw your comments that maid is not an option..

    For us.. home cook meal is important esp for dinners.. w/out a maid, we’ll always have to eat out.. which Daddy despise.

    We are both suckers for eating out. Probably kill ourselves by doing so. If there is one thing daddykhong despises, that would be having a maid in the house. Sometimes he could be mopping the floor in the middle of the night.

  • 8. 1mum  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 6:05 pm at 6:05 pm

    me too a full time SAHM which i have to do all the housework(except laundry & occasionally cook..and wash bb clothes) and taking care of my 1t old tot from the start with no help at all from others including hub…

    and yet i’m not cheerish by my hub who thinks i got an easy lifestyle…blah blah blah

    for yr info my house is always clean and neat eveready to have guest over, i don nag alot too, doesn’t go out with frens etc..

    am i really that bad as what he thinks of me? 😦

    the first 8 months after my bb was born is a nightmare for me too…no help, hubby giving me hard time, complaining that i didn’t cook for him like other wife did..i need to pump breast milk for every feed, i don even have me time at all…. 😦 😦

    all i wan is a pat on the shoulder and appreciate what i’ve done…don talk abt hiring a maid here cos when he heard that he’ll be mad and accuse me of being lazy and what i do at home while he worked he’s ass out there 😦

    pls tell me am i alone?
    Thanks for visiting. Sorry to hear that your hubby has not been as supportive as you wished he would have been. I am sure there are many others in the same position as yourself.

    I give you a pat on your shoulder and say “Good job”. You won’t regret it when your baby grows up.

    What’s your baby’s name?

  • 9. mom2ashley  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 11:03 pm at 11:03 pm

    ai yo..i wonder how we are going to handle 2 kids next time…

    Don’t worry. You’ll learn to cope soon enough.

  • 10. Sasha  |  Tuesday, March 27, 2007 11:14 pm at 11:14 pm

    wo..u making many pppl like me..think twice..think trice think many many time b4 making another bb

    I better write a post on the good stuff Shayanne has done. Soon.

  • 11. huisia  |  Wednesday, March 28, 2007 8:23 am at 8:23 am

    dear, i really salute you..i can feel your tiredness while reading your post.

    Why don’t recruit a maid? Home cook food not better than outside food? Somemore with maid, i think you will have more “ME” time..

    Daddykhong feels that if we want to have kids, we have to look after them ourselves while taking care of our own household matters at the same time.

  • 12. WS  |  Wednesday, March 28, 2007 9:28 am at 9:28 am

    Maybe you can consider getting a part time maid to help during weekend, like few hours to do those “heavy house work” (clean the fan & window type).

    We have a contact for a good part-time maid but haven’t had the time to give her a call. I guess we just lower our expectations on how clean our house should be and live with it.

  • 13. allyfeel  |  Wednesday, March 28, 2007 10:12 am at 10:12 am

    It really changes your life so much eh with the second one? You are lucky as daddy khong is a very supportive husband. Mopping floor at 1am?? WHAO, I don’t think my hub will ever do that.

    Please also find time to shower your poor dogie, otherwise he will get into depression ler.

    Yes, better get the doggie showered soon.

  • 14. Annie Q  |  Wednesday, March 28, 2007 11:26 am at 11:26 am

    haha..laugh at Ally comment..”ur poor dogie will get into depression ..”
    Yvonne, u had done a good job & also daddy khong. Real hats off for u, SAHM and with one toddler and one baby..i think i cant handle it lo!

  • 15. Irene  |  Thursday, March 29, 2007 2:54 am at 2:54 am

    It’s so unheard of here in Canada to have a maid when you are the SAHM. so i really pui fook all these ladies with maids. Then again, I get one year maternity leave, so really nothing to complain about.

    2 kids are different but so much fun too,

    One year maternity leave??? How I wish…..

  • 16. Malaika's mummy  |  Friday, April 6, 2007 12:23 am at 12:23 am

    Hi,first time putting comment here.

    I salute you for handling a baby and a toddler well without a maid.

    Thank you for visiting the blog.


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